Normative Male Alexithymia Ruins Most Relationships


According to CNBC, in the United States, marriage has declined by 60% since the 1970s. While there are a slew of reasons why, including the changing economy, a content creator named Katie Hanlon revealed the less talked-about cause that could be the reason for many ruined relationships.

She explained that ‘normative male alexithymia’ leads to the end of many relationships and marriages.

“Our marriages are ending because of one thing and one thing only, that is normative male alexithymia,” Hanlon declared in her video. She explained that the term alexithymia is a psychological term for “not being able to name or talk about your emotions.”

She continued, saying that it doesn’t necessarily mean that men don’t feel or have any emotions, but that they just don’t have the emotional intelligence or awareness to talk openly about their feelings, along with how to garner empathy from other people about certain emotions.

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Unfortunately, normative male alexithymia doesn’t just go away.

Instead, is simply passed onto the women who are in partnerships with men who have not been able to break free from the restraints of holding in their emotions all of the time. 

“We deal with your emotions. The lack of ability you have to regulate yourself,” Hanlon insisted. “Our households live and die by your insecurities, what we’re allowed to talk about and what we’re not allowed to talk about. All the couple’s humor in the world does not take away from the fact that you’re not interested in us, you’re not interested in contributing in a way that doesn’t work for you.”

Hanlon acknowledged that while many wives may not leave their husbands over this, she knows for a fact that there are women all around the world who routinely cry themselves to sleep and are in emotional agony over their marriages, and what they know will never change.

“You have to be a sociopath for that not to bother you,” Hanlon claimed. “Go to whatever therapy, read whatever book you have to read to make that change.”

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